Grace x2 Marriage Conference [Part 9]
By Alan Wright — July 31, 2018
Are you ready for some good news?
You can help your spouse (or friend or family member) change and grow in the same ways that God has helped you change and grow.
Today’s Text: “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.” (Galatians 6:7, ESV)
Though I used to tell engaged couples, “Don’t try to change your spouse – learn to accept everything about one another,” now I realize that such counsel is illogical. If your spouse is habitually late, or incommunicative, or reckless with finances, you ought to want him or her to change! There would be something terribly unloving if you didn’t want your spouse to be increasingly conformed to Christ, living more and more in the fullness of God’s highest and best plan.
Of course, we don’t have the power to change anyone, but there are some scriptural ways that we can help others grow. One way is to train ourselves to sow the right kind of spiritual seed.
God established one of the most important principles of life in the beginning: everything operates according to seedtime and harvest. Everything reproduces according to its own kind. Orange seeds produce orange trees. Apple seeds produce apple trees. You’ll never plant an orange seed and get an apple tree. Every seed is designed to produce a harvest that matches the nature of the seed.
So why would I ever think I could get my wife to be kinder to me by treating her unkindly? Why would a wife think that she could help her husband become more sensitive by nagging? When you are hurting, your flesh wants to sow the negative seed that was sown toward you. But there is a better way – the way of God. Today, you have the opportunity to sow seed in the hearts of your spouse, friends, and co-workers. What would you like to see in their lives? Sow that kind of spiritual seed. People change when the seeds of grace are deposited in their hearts. And that’s the Gospel!